The Best Thing to Do When You Get Knocked Down Flat on Your Face

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Imagine reaching the top of your profession after dreaming about it since you were a child, then all of a sudden have it completely taken away from you in an instant.

That’s exactly what happened to me when I got hurt in my first game as an NFL player for the Chicago Bears. I was depressed and didn’t talk to any friends or family members for at least two weeks. My life changed forever though when I reluctantly agreed to speak at a leadership event after I received the news that I was going to be out for nine months and reached an injury settlement with the Bears.

That night, I learned a valuable lesson. When failure knocks you down and you are depressed and feeling unworthy, as if there is no way out, you absolutely must get up and get moving! Throughout the years I have had the great privilege to train and work with some of the most amazing sales organizations in the world, and to me, sales is one of the best examples of the importance of increasing action when adversity strikes.

As a salesperson, you are going to get told “no” more than you are going to get told “yes.” For most people, this is tough to deal with. Let’s face it, nobody likes rejection. The average salesperson hates how they feel when they are told “no” so they end up making less calls, visiting less prospects and doing enough to just get by and keep their jobs.

Unfortunately, that doesn’t just apply to salespeople, as ordinary folks from all walks of life have adopted that philosophy for when the going gets tough.

On the other side of the spectrum you have the salesperson who continues to make more and more money regardless of how bad the economy is. The value they bring to both the marketplace and their companies is astonishing. Everyone asks them how they do it, looking for some magical answer or secret, but in reality they aren’t doing anything else except constantly taking massive action, even when the going gets tough.

The best salespeople understand that if they made 30 calls the previous day and received 30 no’s, then they have to make 60 calls the following day to possibly get that one yes. Increasing your action when adversity hits can be a complete game changer for you. It will bring far more results than taking the easy way out. What happens when you increase action is you increase the chance of opportunities coming your way.

It’s nearly impossible to defeat the person who is willing to get back up and keep fighting. Regardless of how devastating your failure is or how much it has you in the gutter, if you are willing to promise to never get complacent and settle, failure and the hard times of life will never be able to place you in the box of mediocrity that paralyzes so many people and prevents them from tapping their inner greatness.

Some of the world’s greatest achievers weren’t necessarily more talented, they just never gave up when they got knocked down on their faces. Whatever it is, just get moving. The whole moral behind increasing your action is to take complete charge of what’s to come.

Most of the time when someone experiences a major failure, they just sit back and wait for life to happen. Over time you will quickly learn that this way of living serves no purpose.

I didn’t know that speaking at the leadership event after I got injured would introduce me to my purpose or help me look at failure in a different light, but it did. It’s all because I made the decision to get out of bed, stop feeling sorry for myself and get moving.

One thing that you need more of when failure knocks you down is self-confidence. Taking massive action does exactly that. Failure in itself becomes a graveyard for so many. The fear of failure grows so strong that any chance of getting started is beyond a long shot. The likelihood of pursuing a dream or passion in life is slim to none.

Failure combined with inaction is extremely deadly and will completely rob you of doing any meaningful work. One of the best things you can do for yourself right now is to decide that you won’t wait for things to be perfect, because things will never be perfect. One of the most surefire ways to change how you feel is to get moving!

Originally Posted on Entrepreneur.com

Forget All of the BS

Forget all of the problems.

Forget all of the violence.

Forget all of the disappointment.

Forget all of the hate.

Forget all of the doubt.

For a brief moment, take your mind completely off all of the negativity. Focus on all of the positive and promising possibilities instead. Remind yourself of how much you are capable of doing in this lifetime.

And if you can’t see all of the wonderful possibilities for your life, then start speaking them into existence. Plant the seeds now!

All too often, worry and anxiety creep in and steal our joy and power. We forget how powerful we really are.

That’s why it’s very important to turn your attention away from that mess. Instead, remind yourself of all the blessings in your life. The possibilities for your future.

Where we direct our focus is the direction our life will move. If we continue to focus on everything that is going wrong, that’s exactly where our life will head. But when we choose to look at the blessings, more good will come our way.

Forget all of the BS!

Do This One Thing During Tough Times

We have all had the bad seasons; the tough and discouraging times in our lives. During those times, it’s very easy to be tempted to talk about how unlucky we are or how bad things really are.

Maybe you just got out of a really long relationship.

Maybe you visited the doctor for a routine checkup to find out you have cancer.

Maybe a loved one recently passed away.

Maybe you’re in financial trouble.

Whatever it is you are facing right now, please understand this: The more you talk about something, the bigger it becomes in your mind. The bigger it becomes in your mind, the more it takes over your whole entire life.

Instead of focusing on the negative and telling ourselves how bad things are, we have to make a strong stand and say, “No, this challenging situation is not going to bring me down. I am not going to let fear override all of the beauty that surrounds me. I am blessed and highly favored. I am a victor, not a victim.”

Even if we can’t see how things will play out, we have to start speaking victory over our lives, not defeat.

Silence The Noise And Fight For Your Dream

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This is extremely important. Just because people tell you that you’re out of your mind or dreaming way too big, doesn’t mean you have to listen!

I am a prime example of what can happen when you silence all of the negativity and go to work on your dream, whatever your dream is, every waking moment.

In high school, I was told I will either be dead or in jail by the time I was 21. When I came to my senses and had a very special moment with the man upstairs, I decided once and for all that I wanted to change my life.

At the time, the only way I knew how to pay back those I hurt and loved the most, was through athletics. Right then and there began a whole new journey for me. I proudly went around telling all of my family and friends that I wanted a Division One scholarship for football.

People laughed at me, even those who loved me most. What did I do? Silenced the external noise and fought day and night for my dream. Every waking moment I worked on my craft and just knew that I was going to make something of myself.

Six months later, I received a total of 19 Division One scholarship offers from some of the most prestigious athletic programs in the country.

Once I got to college at Indiana University, it began all over again. I repeatedly was told, “You made it collegiately, but you will never play a down of professional football.” I kept working on my dream and most importantly never lost faith. Three years later, I signed a contract with the Chicago Bears.

Unfortunately, I suffered an injury while playing the San Diego Chargers. The same old noise and negativity found its way back into my life. Over and over again I was told how athletes never make anything of themselves once they are done playing their sport.

The injury I sustained wasn’t career ending, but I was out long enough to reflect back on my journey. This is where I discovered my true purpose. My WHY.

Three years later, I have a phenomenal team of 7, and I get to travel and speak to some of the greatest companies in the world.

Please understand, none of this is to impress you, but to impress UPON you. That if I can do half of what I have done throughout my 26 years of life, you can too.

Never lose belief in yourself and all that you are capable of. Always remember to work day and night towards your goals, and NEVER listen to the opinion of others when it comes to YOUR dreams.